“I recently joined secretbenefits.com.
I am 48, and completed my divorce in January. I went through a healing period, but I am ready to stick my head out to the singles world, but not my heart.
This website seems to be a great place for someone like me to start dating again.
The women I've met up to now (3 to date in person), have not only been beautiful but also gracious and understanding.
My privacy has been respected and I was not required to enter any payment info when creating my profile and I appreciate that no monthly membership fee is required.
My only wish us that a live video chat would be an option as I personally feel better about meeting someone for the first time if we do chat via live video first.”
“Secret Benefits is obviously a SCAM. Here's how it appears to work:
You start by logging on and submitting a profile.
Soon after, the first wave of a steady stream of enticing female member messages arrives in your mailbox. You can see the profiles -- typically
very attractive 20-something girls -- but you can't open the messages.
Unlike most dating sites that require you to purchase an all-inclusive membership by month, Secret Benefits requires that you buy "tokens" in
order to read and reply to the messages. To begin, your minimum investment is $60 for enough tokens to open a dialog with 10 members.
So it costs you $6 every time you read and reply to a message.
Soon after you make this initial investment, an suspicious pattern emerges. All of these girls that were so anxious to communicate with you
before you submitted your credit card suddenly lose interest. You reply to their messages, but they are suddenly quiet. Crickets!
But so you don't get discouraged, you'll likely get one response. The response is pretty generic, as if it's generated by a bot.
Here's an example of one that I received:
"I’m particularly interested in a partner that holds my pleasure as the primary thing. A slave who takes his time in studying each and every corner of my body."
And one response is all you get. You reply, but there is no continuing dialog. Reply to that message and the result is the same -- crickets.
But one response suggests that the girls you see in the profiles are real. Just enough to keep you hooked.
Or you may get a response that will be so discouraging that you don't even want to follow up. For example, "My boyfriend doesn't want me to
do this, but I think it would be good for all of my kids." Who wants to reply to that???
By now, your 10 replies are used up. Well . . . in for a penny in for a pound, so you decide to re-up one more time.
Only now, the $60 offer is gone. This time, you must pony up $90. But at least you get 20 hits for that increase. And so many women are messaging you!
Newly armed with your filled bucket of "tokens," you reply to more incoming messages. But the result is the same. You get just enough
generic responses to keep you interested. And no follow ups to your replies.
By the time you realize that the site is a scam, you're out $150. At least, you hopefully realize it by this point! If you don't you're in for more.
>>> Remember the old adage "If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.”
“I've been using dating sites for many years, with success more or less...some dry spells, sometimes more action than I could juggle.
Every site has its pros and cons. SB is well developed.
1. Site operates smoothly and fast.
2. Easy to get started. Not as intrusive as many others.
3. Credit system allows coming and going avoiding monthly charges.
4. Seems to be constantly attracting women of all types.
* I did almost get taken by a very convincing trans that I reported as advertising as a female when they have a trans option. Reported but not sure if they did anything about it.”
“This is a great source for middle-aged guys looking to find a younger attractive woman to date. Not really recommended to younger guys looking to dutch treat.
I'm personally having a good time taking pretty ladies out for dinner, cultural activities, sometimes travel. I retired early and love spending my free time with beautiful and charming women. Couldn't be more pleased with my experience.”
“I met a really beautiful woman from Singapore that checks everything on my list as far as what I wanted in a woman. My profile is hidden for now as long as things go well with her. 3-months is usually the tell all for me in relationships. If it doesn't work out for any reason I will be back.”
“This is a straight up dating website. Easy to start and free to female members. I have been having my share of fun since December last year. It was recommended to me by my friend (she is now getting married to a guy she met on the site this spring). If you are an honest good person you should enjoy finding your match or just casually dating from this website.
*I had to comment on the review about the woman complaining about her husband getting blackmailed...what the heck is your husband doing on a dating website? Hahaha ridiculously hilarious. Some people need a reality check.”
“The men I've chatted and gone out with have been very receptive and generous. I've always enjoyed dating older guys so SB is now my favorite site to use.
I was last using Tinder and it was really hard to get guys to commit to actually meeting and the ones that would clearly just wanted to get in my pants. I stopped using older date sites like POF and Match as they are very saturated and full of creepers.
For any guys reading I would recommend posting clear pictures of your face and body type but keep it PG. Also write more than 2 sentences about yourself. Otherwise, don't expect any self-respecting woman to give you the time of day.”
“Be very careful I’ve been scammed by a woman from Manchester, believe me she was very good at it I never saw it coming honestly... seeing her for about a year even got me to guarantor for a loan for her I’m left paying.”
“Dating men through online sites like this one is not easy. Most likely if someone is a total catch someone would have scooped them up already. That said, this website is just a venue, do what you will with it. I am not a 'success' story as I'm still single. However, I am having fun and no regrets. No lack of men messaging me. My main issue is I'm having too much fun to settle. The world can be your oyster. It's really all about how you handle it.”
“TBH I've had mixed experiences dating guys off of SB. Some are really nice, some are meh, and some are like, run! Hahaha. The site is actually really good as far as usability and the price is right (free). I would say just take your time, be somewhat picky choosey, don't hesitate to ask for guys to verify their profile or at least video chat before meeting if you are unsure, and meet somewhere public and casual for the first date.”
“Pretty much a scam as far as I can tell. Bought 10 credits. Received about 30 messages. Of the 10 I paid for, 2 responded to my initial message but never got beyond pleasantries. I think women must be paid to send messages with no commitment to actually follow through”
“As far as online dating websites go, SecretBenefits.com has been alright by me. Bottom line is you should expect to do the dance with the women on this site like any other. I have managed to score a number of dates with some really cute younger women. I'm still seeing a couple of them off and on. Getting a bit tired of playing the dating scene so it would be nice to find a good match that would like to commit. I read some of the reviews here and agree with many of them. Kind of strange that the haters are mostly all anonymous and not verified? If you are on the fence, I think you can still create a profile and search full profiles before making any kind of commitment and they don't charge anything monthly so it's at least worth a look IMO.”
“Very active dating site. I get like 2 or 3 messages from guys everyday. I'm seeing one guy I met from the site on weekends. Very casual and fun. Chatting another that I might go out with and see how it goes. 5 star experience!”
“I had my reservations joining as I do with all dating website services. Most of them have been a miss for me. It did take a week or so until I started getting some legit interest from men that were attractive to me.
A lot of men like many sites don't put enough effort in their profiles or in paying attention to my profile and what I'm actually looking for in a relationship, yet the odds comparatively to most other dating websites I've tried out have been good.
The website is fast and is very easy to navigate. I guess I would say it's simple yet effective. If I had any friends that were single right now I would definitely tell them about it.”
“I met a wonderful man on Secret Benefits!! We are now engaged and will be having our wedding in May. I'm actually living my dream! Ladies, there are good men on this site. My main advice is to put your best foot forward, be honest from the start, and keep it classy!”
“Out of the handful of SD date sites I tried out, this one has proven to be the best for me. There are always new fresh faces joining in my search area which is awesome for me as I really like meeting new people and spicing it up from time to time. 5 star website IMHO.”