“As many other posters have already noted, there seem to be a number of fake profiles on this site. For the first week or so my In-box filled up every day even though there isn't much info or a recognizable pic in my profile. At least 90% if not all of those girls making the first move by writing seem to be fake. The message is usually something very brief and banal ("Hey, how are you?" style) - just enough for the guy to spend 10 credits to able to open the message. If you then reply to these, no matter if it's a few words, an essay or anything in between, chances are you won't get any response! And that even though some of those "girls" are clearly online every day. Another thing to watch out for: Anyone who sends you a message or a "like" without ever having visited your profile, is most likely fake. Looking at the couple positive reviews here on 'reviews.io', these appear suspiciously verbose and read like out of a marketing brochure. All that being said, there are in fact some real and serious girls on this site, but those usually aren't the ones sending you a message right away (don't waste your credits on those). Last but not least, it seems there are quite a few more men on this site than (real!) women, suggested by the fact that two girls I communicated with told me they were overwhelmed with responses.”
“Secret Benefits is obviously a SCAM. Here's how it appears to work:
You start by logging on and submitting a profile.
Soon after, the first wave of a steady stream of enticing female member messages arrives in your mailbox. You can see the profiles -- typically
very attractive 20-something girls -- but you can't open the messages.
Unlike most dating sites that require you to purchase an all-inclusive membership by month, Secret Benefits requires that you buy "tokens" in
order to read and reply to the messages. To begin, your minimum investment is $60 for enough tokens to open a dialog with 10 members.
So it costs you $6 every time you read and reply to a message.
Soon after you make this initial investment, an suspicious pattern emerges. All of these girls that were so anxious to communicate with you
before you submitted your credit card suddenly lose interest. You reply to their messages, but they are suddenly quiet. Crickets!
But so you don't get discouraged, you'll likely get one response. The response is pretty generic, as if it's generated by a bot.
Here's an example of one that I received:
"I’m particularly interested in a partner that holds my pleasure as the primary thing. A slave who takes his time in studying each and every corner of my body."
And one response is all you get. You reply, but there is no continuing dialog. Reply to that message and the result is the same -- crickets.
But one response suggests that the girls you see in the profiles are real. Just enough to keep you hooked.
Or you may get a response that will be so discouraging that you don't even want to follow up. For example, "My boyfriend doesn't want me to
do this, but I think it would be good for all of my kids." Who wants to reply to that???
By now, your 10 replies are used up. Well . . . in for a penny in for a pound, so you decide to re-up one more time.
Only now, the $60 offer is gone. This time, you must pony up $90. But at least you get 20 hits for that increase. And so many women are messaging you!
Newly armed with your filled bucket of "tokens," you reply to more incoming messages. But the result is the same. You get just enough
generic responses to keep you interested. And no follow ups to your replies.
By the time you realize that the site is a scam, you're out $150. At least, you hopefully realize it by this point! If you don't you're in for more.
>>> Remember the old adage "If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.”
“Pretty much a scam as far as I can tell. Bought 10 credits. Received about 30 messages. Of the 10 I paid for, 2 responded to my initial message but never got beyond pleasantries. I think women must be paid to send messages with no commitment to actually follow through”
“It's a sugar daddy website and yet UK men are not being generous with their money.
Too many people treating it like a regular dating site, even though it clearly states what it is.
To answer someone's question, women do not receive payment for messaging the men on the site.”
“Secret Benefits is where successful business men or rich men go to meet and make an financial arrangement with a possible "girlfriend". However, these sugar daddies appear to be time wasters, who are simply looking to chat because they are lonely, or meet for a couple dates in the hope of getting free kisses or something.
I have had plenty of attention as a sugar baby, but where are all the real sugar daddies that are going to offer you sugar? That is the point of this site afterall, otherwise, why don't these guys just go to a sex site?
The site is free for sugar babies, but to weed out the time wasters and jokers, the women should be charged a small fee to register.”
“I found a keeper. She ticks off all of the boxes for what I find to be most important to me in a partner. She's beautiful, doesn't judge me, loves to laugh, has a beautiful spirit, has dreams, an upbeat attitude, and shares the same values as me.
We do have a bit of an age gap, but I don't think either of us care or notice really. All that really matters is that we are happy.
We've been spending a lot more time lately at my place and are talking about her moving in with me. It will be a big step for both of us but I honestly couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
We took our profiles down from the site recently, and I would just like to thank Secretbenefits for helping bring us together!”
“Not gonna be a hater and blame this date site if every chick I'm into doesn't pan out. I admit sometimes my game is on point more times than others, and I'm probably not that attractive physically in the traditional sense... That's kind of the point on a site like this though, isn't it? Looks shouldn't matter as much maybe and perhaps factors that may not make me attractive to a woman for a traditional relationship don't matter as much for an arrangement on sites like this, but from my experience it does matter to some girls here and they don't necessarily jump at any chance to meet a guy like me. I have noticed if I play my cards right, and put my best game face on, I do have a better chance in scoring here. I try to be thoughtful, witty, charming, or whatever...I certainly don't go pervy on them which usually always is a game killer. honestly, I don't hit a homerun as often as I like, yet my batting average here has certainly been better than most any other site I've tried to date. Probably because I've got better at this online dating thing and I'm sure the girls are a bit more forgiving here as well. In any case I would say it's worth a shot. Maybe not for everyone but I can't disagree more with the few here that thinks it's a scam because they can't manage to score the way they would like. I've personally arranged to see at least a dozen if not more women from this site and they all turned up and were the women they appeared to be on their profile. Best of luck.”
“Secret Benefits is a dating site for would-be sugar daddies. It is full of false profiles, each resembling the other in terms of the style of photography and profile text. In fact the profile texts appear to have been written by some kind of bored hack journalist with no imagination for variety. The profiles are so obviously false it's almost ridiculous. On top of this, Secret Benefits works hard to remove any critical reviews from Trustpilot. One can assume they pay Trustpilot to remove these, as I twice wrote a legitimate critique, proving my subscription to Secret Benefits, and both times Trustpilot deleted my reviews. I will say Secret Benefits have a good and responsive customer service, though I would recommend to these nice people that they seek a legitimate employer and leave the den of deception that is Secret Benefits - and by the way, if you read the positive reviews on Trustpilot, you will notice they are written in the same style. What a surprise.”
“Curious to see if my experience using Secret Benefits was similar to others here. Course there are the same kind of complainers as I have noticed on all of the dating sites I've checked out. Some people just need to get a grip and realize it's more likely them and not the service. If you don't have game, online dating may not be what you need to focus on. Anyways, nice to see there have been a lot of good experiences too.
In turn, I'm happy to share how using Secret Benefits has worked for me as well. For whatever it's worth...
I've been on the site for about a year now. I believe I joined around my Bday in Feb of '19. There have been a lot more gals joining since I first signed up which was one of my complaints here since there were not as many women as I had liked to choose from before. Since they have attracted a lot more women to the site, I've been on more frequently. I also expanded my search to other nearby cities. I personally like to date around and so a good variety is always nice to pick from.
They've managed to keep the site simple and effective. Really intuitive to use. No issues with users yet. I have not had contact with their customer support so not sure how good that is.
Chat feature works well. Site speed is good.
Some women I've dated have lasted longer than others. To be honest, I'm really particular with who I'm attracted to and not many make it past the 1st or 2nd date.
I've also been ghosted a couple times, so clearly, it can go either way.
I have noticed a lot of new faces lately which may be because everyone is stuck at home and many have lost jobs and maybe looking for a partner that wants to help support, but either way it works better for me.
As I said, I'm not looking for a LTR, but I do enjoy spoiling women I date and certainly enjoy upscale vacations as much as my dates do.
Hopefully, my good luck here keeps up and the lock down starts to get lifted. I love my home, and my dog is a good pal, but I'm ready to get back out there and enjoy life to its fullest with beautiful women, great food, and amazing locations. Best of luck to all and stay safe out there.”
“I signed up for an account on secretbenefits.com about 10 days ago. Clicked on an ad for them mostly out of boredom and some curiosity I guess.
I've been stuck at home like most people for over a month now and so I have been getting cabin fever and genuinely lonely feeling.
I admit I technically have a GF but I've barely heard from her lately so what's a guy to do? Anyway, signed up on this site, very easy process, maybe took 5 minutes.
They let you start searching profiles right away. You get full access aside from the women that hide their pics and vids which I did notice a bunch. Lot's of women in my city. Plenty of hotties for sure.
I did have a few of them check out my profile and favorite me and I did get one interesting message from a girl that wasn't necessarily my type but cute in her own right.
After a couple of days of looking I picked up a small credit package (10 creds open unlimited messaging with whoever you choose to message, not bad at all IMO). There are a few crazy hot babes that just ticked off all my boxes that I really want to test the waters with.
I messaged 3 women I have my eye on about a week ago and 2 wrote me back the same day. Nothing back from the 3rd chick yet... The 2 that have got back to me have been very talkative and flirtatious. We're all in the same boat, and clearly have a lot of time on our hands.
Of course, no meetups in person yet but I think it's very promising with both of them once things return to some normalcy. Not sure how and when I'm gonna break it to my GF, but if either of these other women work out... Well, it will be no contest.
That all said, I vouch that in my experience secretbenefits.com has held up their end of the bargain and I do recommend checking it out.”
“I just opened a profile on Secret Benefits 2 weeks ago. I'm a young single mom and I am so ready to meet a real man that can hold his own and make me feel comforted that he has my back. Maybe I'm hopeful, but I think I have found a really great guy here. We've been chatting everyday all day since right after I joined. He contacted me and just said all the right things. He's very handsome for a guy that's 11 years older than me, enjoys a lot of the same things, and goes to a lot of my favorite places to eat and hang out. He was also gracious enough to verify his profile for me today. I'm cautious as I always am but everything is giving me a lot of hope and joy that I may have really found Mr. Right. We can't wait to get the chance to meet in person and see if the chemistry is as strong as it's been online. ❤️❤️”
“I joined SB earlier this year and really enjoyed the platform, it wasn’t until a couple of months later that I realized my account had been reduced to limited access (I couldn’t send or receive messages, not viewable in search results).
Thoroughly confused by this, I reached out to customer service and they could not provide me with any information as to why they limited my access. So I did not know if it was something that was fixable on my end. After spending a week trying to resolve the issue, with NO effort on the customer support side, I decided to delete my account.
Fast forward a couple months later and I tried to create a new account, hoping that I wouldn’t experience any issues. After a day, my account was again dropped to limited access without communication. It wasn’t until I reached out to customer support that I found out.
They failed to provide me with any details on how I could resolve this issue. I thoroughly read through all of the terms both times this occurred and could not understand what I had breach as I had followed ALL proper instructions and even had some great experiences from the site.
I have been very disappointed in the lack of communication that customer support has provided and feel as if there is no effort being made to help a consumer resolve a serious issue, being that if I can’t send or receive messages, there is really no point of me being on the platform.
I have been sugar dating for several years now and have tried various different websites, this is the first I have come across to have any issues of this nature. It is very unfortunate, I hope that they change their policies so they can help provide more insight into situations similar to mine. As a consumer, I appreciate transparency, this is something that I have found extremely lacks with this website. Knowing that I am not the only one who has come across this, I would highly recommend going to a competing site.”
“After I signed up to see what Secretbenefits had to offer, I took the time to set up a good profile that hopefully would attract women to contacting me. I didn't get much attention, so I spent time looking over women with my desired filters. There was a handful of attractive ladies of interest. What was nice is the site didn't ask me for any payment info to do these things so it was practically like a free trial. After kicking the tires for a couple weeks I decided to go for it and messaged my top pick. To my surprise, she messaged me back a day later. We have really been hitting it off chatting for the past couple weeks. The frustrating part is we want to meet in person but are both hesitant to meet because of the Corona...we are not sick but we are not sure if we should... anyone else going through this?”
“Be very careful I’ve been scammed by a woman from Manchester, believe me she was very good at it I never saw it coming honestly... seeing her for about a year even got me to guarantor for a loan for her I’m left paying.”